special events

Five Things Your Wedding Planner Can Take Care of For You

Chicago Wedding Planner and draping designer

One of the biggest misconceptions people have about hiring a wedding planner is that it’s too expensive, however this is the total opposite. When planning your wedding, a wedding planner is able to provide support in ways you have not yet realized. Here are some examples:

 1. Wedding Planners Help You to Stay on Budget

Wedding planners are experienced in knowing how much things should typically cost and how much of your budget should be allocated to each particular item associated with your wedding. For instance, a wedding planner can assist you in determining how much you should be paying your photographer, the caterer, the florist, etc. This will help you to not only stay on budget, but to ensure that you’re hiring the best vendors at the best price. When you hire a wedding planner, they will communicate with you about your budget and help you to make realistic decisions.

2. Wedding Planners have Industry Connections

When you hire a wedding planner, you pretty much get the “hook up”. From being in the industry for years, wedding planners have established relationships with various vendors from venue owners to florist and limousine companies, to name a few. Most vendors will offer a wedding planner a discount because of their established relationship and continuous business, something that a couple will not get access to if they are not familiar with the vendor. Knowing which vendors to work with is also very important and when you hire a wedding planner, they can give you their top recommendations based on personal experiences with the vendor.

3. Wedding Planners are Experienced in Handling Contracts

Contracts are essential when dealing with client/vendor relationships. But let’s be honest, some contracts have clauses or legal jargon that the average couple might not quite understand. When you hire a wedding planner, as a part of their job, the wedding planner will read, analyze, and communicate the contract terms for you. They will also act as an advocate for you against any contract discrepancies or clauses that are not beneficial to you.

4. Wedding Planners Allows You to De-stress

Truth is, you do not want to be worrying about things on your wedding day such when the photographer will be arriving, or did your bridesmaids show up. When you hire a wedding planner, you can rest assured that your day will get organized without you having to worry about it. Your wedding planner is responsible for making sure everything gets done in a timely manner and that everyone is where they are supposed to be from the caterer to the wedding party. This gives you the peace of mind to truly enjoy every moment of preparing to walk down the aisle.

5. Not have Wedding Planning Take Over your Schedule

Let’s face it when juggling work, home, exercise, and sometimes children you barely have time to do the laundry, much less pick out the perfect linens for the reception dinner. When you have a lot going on and still would like your wedding day to be perfect, a wedding planner is just what you need.If you have any questions about what to ask when interviewing planners or how to get support planning your wedding, contact us.

special events

Summer lovin’…..

Summer is here and wedding season is in full effect! Summer weddings are amazing, the extreme heat and humifity can be quite uncomfortable, especially for guests. Below are a few summer wedding tips to ensure your guests are comfortable while you say “I Do”!


  1. Handheld fans are a great way to help keep your guests cool during summer. We can even have them made with your names on them!
  2. Custom Sunshades
  3. Parasols – We can even have them made with your names on them!
  4. TENTS – I can’t stress this enough
    1. Have the ceremony in the tent and the reception indoors
2011, 2012, 2013, 2015, 2017, 2018, author, baby showers, booksigning, brides, corporate events, cupcakes, dc, events, fundraiser, hip-hop, insurance, irony, love, marriage, Meeting Planning, resolutions, self help, social events, special events, trouble, Uncategorized, washington, weddings

Let them eat cake

Cake by http://www.facebook.com/desserts4dequan

Currently in wedding culture, the cake/cupcakes/donut wall is usually on display and served to guests at the reception. However, traditionally, wedding cakes were made to bring good luck to all guests and the couple. Modern weddings now, however, they are more of a centerpiece to the wedding and are not always even served to the guests.

As far back as the Roman Empire, wedding cakes were created..  Here are my top 7 Wedding Cake Traditions

Cutting the Cake

In addition to the first dance and bouquet toss, this  tradition is one of those photo opportunities that graces every wedding.  The bride and the groom do this together symbolizing one of their first activities as Mr. and Mrs.  As cakes have transformed into multi-tiered exquisite designs fit for hundreds of guests, usually they do not cut the entire cake up, but instead leave that duty to the caterer.

Feeding Each Other Cake

In a traditional cake cutting ceremony the bride and groom feed each other a small bite of cake. This can be romantic and sweet, symbolizing a commitment to provide for one another and a show of love and affection.

Especially with social media, this  has evolved in some cases to the groom or bride grinding the cake into his or her partner’s face. Unless each person agrees beforehand to participate in this type of show, it is best to stick with a simple feeding.  For my hubby and I – WE DID NOT SMASH THE CAKE!

The Groom’s Cake

Early American weddings had groom’s cakes and many southern states in the U.S. continue with this tradition. Many northern weddings have begun to adopt this tradition  – it is used as a show piece for the GROOM!  The primary focus of this cake is to showcase the groom’s hobbies, individual taste, and even his favorite sports teams.

Traditional grooms cakes, are usually chocolate to contrast the actual wedding cake, although any flavor is acceptable, especially now that wedding cakes are SO unique to the couples individual taste.

Saving the Top Tier

Most couples cannot resist saving the top tier to eat on their first anniversary or a christening ceremony. Now, most couples are more likely to create a small cake eating ceremony around their first anniversary. Sharing this small cake is a charming reminder of a special day.

A well-wrapped cake can easily survive a year in the deep freezer without too much damage, as long as the cake has no mousse layers or delicate fresh fruit fillings. A seasoned baker like Kristin Curtis of Desserts4Dequan can take care of this for you with a little insider information.

Sleeping With Piece of Cake Under the Pillow

It is thought that a person sleeping with a piece of wedding cake under her pillow would dream of her future partner that night. This custom dates back almost 300 years and is often practically combined with wedding favors being tiny, perfect replicas of the wedding cake.

Cakes in modern times are sometimes not as firm as the traditional fruitcake used in the past, so having it under a pillow could get messy! A favor in a box is a much neater solution – but I WOULD DEFINITELY EAT IT, and not sleep with it!

Wedding Cake Charms

The tradition of baking charms into wedding cakes is a longstanding one which has fallen away. It is an absolutely delightful tradition to try as long as you warn the guests to be careful and remove their charm before eating the cake!​​

A more practical variation is pushing the charms into a baked cake with a ribbon attached so the guest can simply pull the charm out.

There are several charms that are used traditionally and each has a specific meaning:

  • Heart: true love
  • Ring: upcoming engagement
  • Wishing Well; wishes coming true
  • Highchair: children
  • Clover or Horseshoe: good luck
  • Rocking Chair: long life
  • Anchor: adventure
  • Flower: new love
  • Purse: good fortune
  • Wedding bells: marriage

The White Wedding Cake

White icing was a symbol of purity, money and social importance in Victorian times, so a white cake was highly desired. The fine white sugar needed to create white icing was extremely expensive and the lighter the cake, the more wealthy the family would appear to their guests.

The white of the cake was simply a representation of the bride as the main focal point of the wedding. Many brides today mimic this continuity by creating cakes in the same hue as their dress or bouquet.

Wedding cakes can be any color, but most people still feel the base color beyond the decorations should be white. White is, of course, the color of purity and traditionally this cake was referred to as the “bride’s cake” – hence the grooms cake.


special events

Le Fleur

For many centuries flowers have held and occupied an important place in our lives. Flowers are used and seen as a symbol of love, beauty and a gift of nature. Flowers are used by us to provoke the feelings of love and happiness because they have the power to make people happy and cheerful.

This same premise is true in how you use flowers for your event. Pops of pink, a spray of white, a cluster of wisteria can make a difference in the mood of your room. Bright, vibrant florals are festive and cheery…. while pastel and pale florals are elegant and serene…

What’s your theme? What’s your mood? Let your floral arrangements tell the story for you.

These florals and this backdrop are courtesy of The Curtis Array

special events

Signature Cocktails – DELISH

A Signature drink is any unique or original drink that expresses the nature of the person or establishment creating it. Signature drinks often incorporate local ingredients and culture. Wikipedia

Here is the Events by MDM Associates – EPIC Punch:

Champagne (not extra dry or brute)

Peach Schnapps

Mailibu Rum

Makers Mark (just a splash or 2)

Red wine (not sweet, a nice Cabernet for color)

Fresh Fruit

MDM Signature mix (this is what makes it epic)

special events

To drink or not to drink

Many newly engage couples and their wedding guests couldn’t imagine a celebration without adult beverages, but for those with religious or financial restrictions to serving alcohol, a “dry” wedding may seem like the best option. But, is it even socially accepted to not offer alcoholic beverages at a wedding? If your goal is to save money, is there a way for you to serve alcohol without breaking the bank?

Christa McLaughlin of Scratch Kitchen, which is headquartered in Maryland, told Events by MDM Associates that she’s catered a number of dry weddings due to couples’ religious beliefs, though she wouldn’t recommend it otherwise. “If the couple is not serving alcohol for reasons other than religious and cultural preferences, the common belief it is in poor taste to not serve alcohol,” she says. That’s not all: a recent CNN poll of 37,000 people found that just eight percent of participants said that dry weddings are just fine with them. Three percent agreed that “A dry wedding is a pain, but I’ll deal,” and the rest agreed that an open bar or even cash bar (one of the BIGGEST MISTAKES a couple can commit!) is preferable. Five percent said they wouldn’t even attend a dry wedding.

special events


Even if it is a color scheme, weddings tend to have a theme. It is best if you can pick a theme that fits your personality (and that of the groom) and all of the innovative ways we can weave the theme into their wedding.

How can you make sure that your upcoming nuptials stand out as unique and memorable? One way is to incorporate your  theme into your catering menu.

Whether your wedding is in “feet on the sand” on the beach, on a golf course, or at a wedding rental venue, can help you create an inspired menu.

Wondering where to start? Read on to learn how to match your catering menu to your wedding theme.

Before you begin planning your menu, think about your wedding theme. Like a carefully crafted story, you want to weave that theme throughout every aspect of your big day — including the food.

If your theme centers around a movie, book, or character, start by revisiting the source. Look for subtle details in the text or script that you can incorporate into your ceremony and reception.

What if your theme is location-based, such as nautical or rustic? A talented chef and a creative bride can work wonders to incorporate local aspects or themes into the food.

For example, let’s say you’re planning a beach wedding in Ocean City. A quick internet search yields fun ideas like a Seabreeze cocktail reception and sand dollar cookies.

Now that you’re thinking about food, let’s discuss seven ways to incorporate your wedding theme into the catering menu.

  1. Fit the Mood – Every wedding has a distinct mood and personality. Whether yours feels sophisticated, casual, or somewhere in between, your menu selection should match the mood.
  2. Match the Setting – The location of your wedding should definitely factor into your menu selection.
  3. Go Local and Seasonal – When in doubt, you can never go wrong with locally grown produce or seasonal items.
  4. Think Global – This may seem like strange advice after the last point, but consider this.
  5. Get Festive – Does your wedding fall over a holiday weekend? Incorporate the festivities into your wedding theme – and your catering menu.
  6. Themed Cocktails – Most mixed drinks have a story behind them. Take advantage of that history by serving theme-appropriate cocktails at your wedding reception.
  7. Cake cake cake – The cake is the highlight of any wedding reception. This is the perfect opportunity to include your wedding theme and express your personality.
2011, 2012, 2013, 2015, 2017, 2018, author, baby showers, booksigning, brides, corporate events, cupcakes, dc, events, fundraiser, hip-hop, insurance, irony, love, marriage, Meeting Planning, resolutions, self help, social events, special events, trouble, Uncategorized, washington, weddings

Picking the Right Attire

Not all bodies are created equal. It doesn’t mean they can’t look fabulous on their big day. Make sure you have the right team in place to help you choose the right style of dress for your body.  This is important for Brides, Grooms, Bridal Party and Moms of the Bride and Groom too….

2011, 2012, 2013, 2015, 2017, 2018, author, baby showers, booksigning, brides, corporate events, cupcakes, dc, events, fundraiser, hip-hop, insurance, irony, love, marriage, Meeting Planning, resolutions, self help, social events, special events, trouble, Uncategorized, washington, weddings

Wedding Website 4-1-1 – How to Create a Wedding Website That’ll Get Your Guests Excited for the Big Day


Wedding websites can be a great way for couples to share info with wedding guests — especially in real time and with up-to-date info. Here some of the top resources for building free wedding websites and the information you should share on the site.

What to include – Short answer: Anything that you don’t want to be asked on the day of the wedding

A wedding website is the best way to  let your guests know the important details about your wedding, like where it is, and when, so that they don’t come and bug you for directions to the reception when they lose the invitation (cough, me). But don’t confuse informing with instructing. Informing means giving people all the important details they need to make an informed decision about how to approach your wedding (e.g., the grass is going to be like quicksand, so it might not be friendly for stilettos and other high-heeled shoes). Instructing is telling people how they should approach your wedding (e.g., we’re getting married outdoors, so no fancy shoes allowed). No matter how nicely you phrase it, or how helpful your intentions are, no one likes to be told what to do, especially older guests who have been going to weddings for longer than you’ve been alive. So think of your wedding website as this emoji: 💁. Not this one: 👮.

Here are my two favorites!

Photo courtesy of www.techadvisor.co.uk/